About Boys

Sorry I have been gone, again, summer is busy as usual – even if there is no summery weather to enjoy. Here is my post I have been delaying for far too long, once again I apologize and thank Anna for the prompt.
As I said, I am going to talk to you about boys. Maybe some of you have close friends now who are boys, or maybe you did when you were younger. When I was nine my best friend was a boy in fact. At younger ages it is easy to be friends with boys and not worry about any romantic thoughts entering your heard. After all, in your eyes, a boy is just another kid to go and play with and dig in the dirt with. However, at this age, friendships with boys may be harder. You may find that when are around boys all you can think about is how nice he is, how handsome, and maybe even wish to court him.
There is nothing wrong with thinking a boy is nice of course, but it is easy to carry these thoughts too far and soon you will find that your friendship is ruined because you no longer view him as a friend but only in a romantic interest. I am not saying you shouldn't be friends with boys – I grew up with two brothers and think that being around boys and playing with them is a lot of fun. However, you must be careful of your thoughts when you are around them as it is easy to start thinking of them as something other then just friends.
The best advice I was ever given on this was to think of all boys as your brothers, and hopefully they are, your brothers in Christ. When you think of them in this way, all romantic thoughts will leave and you can enjoy your time together as brother and sister. And, when God is ready for you to be married, He will show you the one that you shouldn't view as a brother.
Also, as a girl, you must watch your behavior around boys. Are you acting like a girl even when you are joining in their games. When they offer to help with something do you let them or inform them you can do it alone – always remember boys like to help, it is in their nature and as a girl you should let them. There is nothing wrong in showing a little humility and letting him carry your books or whatever else he might offer to carry or let him hold the door for you if he wants. In fact, he would really like this. This same attitude should be had when you are around your real brothers. Someday your brothers will be men and it is in their nature to want to protect and help their sister – and it will help them later with their wives.
There is also the matter of dress. Boys can be easily tempted by improper dress and as their sister in Christ you need to help them to not stumble, not help them over the cliff. Make sure your shirts and paints or skirts aren't too tight. Make sure tops aren't too low and even with your make up, make sure you are not wearing too much as this also is a temptation. If you need help on modesty there is a very nice site of the Rebulution blog – the Modesty Servery – that Katie, I, and some of our friends have found to be a great help. It is especially nice as boys helped to do it and tell what tempts and what doesn't.
If you are like me then you might find thee company of boys to be fun and enjoyable. But just remember that you are a girl and they are boys and there are certain things you shouldn't do around them. Behave always like a girl and always treat them with respect even if they are younger then you.