Why Do Friendships Seem Unimportant in the Teen World? Part Two

Every girl longs to be loved. It is a desire God has given us, the longing to have someone always there for you, someone who thinks you are special and who – though not over looking your faults – loves you in spite of them even when you do fail. Most girls have come to think this longing is only able to be filled by a man, a husband who will always listen to them, always love them, always protect them.

Now, I am not saying it is wrong to desire to be married – so long as it is a desire for the right reasons and does not distract you from God. I must admit, at age 22 it is one of my desires, but one does not have to be married to feel loved.

Everything in this world, or nearly all of it, has to do with romance. Everyone is forgetting what true friendships are and when they see two boys close or two girls close they right off think they are lesbian. Why? Because romance has replaced friendships. Think of some of the greatest friendship stories in history. There was Anne and Diana. Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson. Were these people lesbian? Maybe in some people's minds but the stories were meant to show their friendships.

Then there is the greatest friendship story of all time – the life of David and Jonathan. In the Bible David tells Jonathan his love to him was better then the love of women. I have heard some people use this as an excuse for being homosexual when in fact it just was showing how close these two men were in their friendship. They were like brothers and they were always there for each other – think of it! Sometimes David's own wife was not there for him!

So, I firmly believe there can be close friendships between two girls and two boys without there being any romance involved. And I also believe friendships are very important in a young adult's life. If a girl starts dating at so young an age in a search to be loved she will end up with a broken heart every time she breaks up or there is a chance she will end up pregnant. However, if she has a friend, a true friend who loves her and who she knows loves her, this risk is lessened.

True friends can bare each other up, can help each other through life, and to help fill that longing we all have. Now I know a girl friend can never fill the longing to be married and loved by a man, but a friend can reassure you you are loved, wanted, cared for.