I have debated long over the passed two weeks, or week, on what I should post about. I have had many ideas, two of the main ones being boys and judging. I think I shall do judging first.
Now, I know that somewhere in every human beings nature there is a part of us that judges others. This usually comes about when we first meet a person and once we have judge them it usually takes awhile for us to change opinions of them even once we get to know them.
When you met someone for the first time what do you find yourself thinking? Do you look at their outward appearance - dress, hair, make up, and so forth - and get an idea from that as to what kind of person they are? If they are dressed in a very fine dress that looks like it should born at a first class dinner but they are at some small gathering where everyone is wearing every day cloths do you think they are stuck up? What if it is the opposite?
Let's face it, you make your own opinion of someone right when you see them and that could easily be a wrong opinion. You do not know the person, the kind of day they've had. For all you know they did not get the memo on how to dress -or they got off work late, or they had to go somewhere else right after this one gathering. All this is to say you cannot judge a person on their outward appearance alone.
Maybe you can make some pretty safe guesses as to what this person is like but you cannot say for certain. A girl dressed in the latest fashion does not make her someone who spends to much time and concern on her clothing. For all you know she was simply dressing up in such a way for a friend.
All of this is to say that judging a person before you get to know them may ruin your chance at making a new friend. If you are a ladylike girl who likes things neat and orderly and you see a girl arriving at a party in blue jeans and a tee shirt wherein everyone else is wearing party dresses and right off think she is wild and unruly and does not bother dressing nice for a special occasion you may have just jumped to a conclusion and ruined your chance at meeting someone who may be like you in more ways then you know.
Always keep in mind that you do not know the heart of a person until you really get to know them. Yes, I will admit that you must be careful in picking friends, but don't be so judgemental that you loose a friend before you even make one.
Now, I know that somewhere in every human beings nature there is a part of us that judges others. This usually comes about when we first meet a person and once we have judge them it usually takes awhile for us to change opinions of them even once we get to know them.
When you met someone for the first time what do you find yourself thinking? Do you look at their outward appearance - dress, hair, make up, and so forth - and get an idea from that as to what kind of person they are? If they are dressed in a very fine dress that looks like it should born at a first class dinner but they are at some small gathering where everyone is wearing every day cloths do you think they are stuck up? What if it is the opposite?
Let's face it, you make your own opinion of someone right when you see them and that could easily be a wrong opinion. You do not know the person, the kind of day they've had. For all you know they did not get the memo on how to dress -or they got off work late, or they had to go somewhere else right after this one gathering. All this is to say you cannot judge a person on their outward appearance alone.
Maybe you can make some pretty safe guesses as to what this person is like but you cannot say for certain. A girl dressed in the latest fashion does not make her someone who spends to much time and concern on her clothing. For all you know she was simply dressing up in such a way for a friend.
All of this is to say that judging a person before you get to know them may ruin your chance at making a new friend. If you are a ladylike girl who likes things neat and orderly and you see a girl arriving at a party in blue jeans and a tee shirt wherein everyone else is wearing party dresses and right off think she is wild and unruly and does not bother dressing nice for a special occasion you may have just jumped to a conclusion and ruined your chance at meeting someone who may be like you in more ways then you know.
Always keep in mind that you do not know the heart of a person until you really get to know them. Yes, I will admit that you must be careful in picking friends, but don't be so judgemental that you loose a friend before you even make one.
1 comments:
Judging. *shudders* I can't even imagine all I would have missed out on if I had kept my first opinion of my big sister. I try very hard not to judge people now.
Great post, Heather - as always! :D Love you!
~ Katie
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