Being alike. *shudders* When I dreamed of having a friend as a little girl I wanted someone just like me – only with red hair, green eyes, and who was talkative. Um, yeah, picky wasn't I? This friend I longed for never did show up – in fact she is now in a book and that is where she is meant to stay.
When you think of the kind of friend you want what come to mind? Someone who likes the things you like most likely? If you enjoy the outdoors you want a friend who likes them as well right? So the two of you can go hiking or camping together. You most likely would not want a friend who loves shopping and spends weekends at the local mall.
If you are talkative you want a friend who likes talking, right? Would would want someone you could stay up late with, sitting out on the porch having lovely, night long conversations while watching the fireflies buzz by. You probably would not want a friend who says ten words maximum the whole day.
As my DLS pointed out already, she and I are opposite. If we tried we could not get any more so. She talks non stop – literally – while I have trouble thinking up enough things to say for even a half an hour conversation. She is ladylike. She always dresses nice and stylish, does her hair in pretty styles, and wears makeup. I am a tomboy. I wear old fashioned looking dresses, run about barefoot, and wear my hair in braids all the time – and I only wear makeup when someone is able to tackle me to the ground and put it on me.
You do not have to have the same interests to be friends with a person. If that were the case Katie and I would never be friends, we have about a max of four things in common and even those are a little shifty sometimes. So, why are we so close? We take time to learn more about the others interests and do the things they enjoy even if we may not like them.
I like writing adventure books, so what did she do? She agreed to write one with me even though it is something she does not enjoy much – not normally, she has come to enjoy the book. I do not like shopping at all but I went with her anyways had it turned out it was a lot of fun – I even found a Sherlock Holmes coat. She will watch Lord of the Rings and watch all the way to the end because I like the ending though she does not. I will stay up late talking with her because it is something she loves even if I am not that great at talking. And you know what we have found? That we enjoy doing things we normally would not have. Why? Because we are doing them together.
Friendships, like everything else, take work. If you are not willing to work at a friendship then you are not willing to have a friend. Find out the kinds of things your friend likes to do and do them with her even if you may not enjoy them – and do them willingly and cheerfully or it is a lost cause.
Take the time to talk about things your friend likes. If she likes shopping go with her and take an interest in it. If she likes going on walks go with her – not only will you spend time with her but you will get good excursive. When your friend is having a bad day listen to her problems and encourage her in the Lord – with a gentle and humble spirit. Laugh when she laughs, weep when she weeps, and give a hug when she needs to be held. Just because you two are not at all alike does not mean there is no hope of you ever being close!
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