Fighting Jealousy

I'm not a fan of Miley Cyrus, but I do like a few of her songs. Fly on the Wall happens to be one of them.




I was listening to this song today and it reminded me of how much jealousy can hurt.

What is jealousy really? I'm not sure I know the whole answer to this question, but I think jealousy stems from a desire to be close with your friend, and feeling threatened when see another close to them too. We either feel jealous of the other person for being close with the friend we want to be close to; or we get scared when we see someone else close to our friend because we don't want to be replaced or forgotten.


I've suffered from both kinds of jealousy, and I think another name for the second kind of jealousy could be "mistrust." We don't trust our friend enough to not replace or forget us. But what does this do to our friend? Do we really want our friends to feel guilty about spending time with their other friends, or to feel like they have to rush back to us? I certainly don't want my friends to feel this way!


So what can we do to prevent it? We can be selfless and give up these jealous, selfish thoughts and learn to trust our friends.

One of my friends heard someone say that when one has hurtful thoughts they need to change them into positive thoughts - such as reminding ourselves that our friend will not forget or replace us. One way I do this is by saving all the sweet texts I get from Heather. Then I re-re-re-read them when I start to feel lonely or left out - it helps a lot.


So do you have any ideas on how to battle jealous feelings? Comment and let me know!