Two Are Better Than One - Being Aware of Your Friends' Love Languages.

I have only recently learned of Love Languages. At first I was skeptical of them but now I think there is something to them. It took me awhile to find out what they are and even now I forget all of them. I know there is quality time, Word of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. These are ways people feel loved. Each one has their own different way of feeling loved. For me I feel the most loved when someone spends time with me. If someone tells me they love me but do not take time to do things with me then I don't feel that they love me. This is different for Katie as hers is words.

Now, I have learned much on this. First off, it is normal for a person to show love with their language. I hardly ever tell Katie I love her because to me I find little meaning behind words and think there is no point. Instead I show her I love her by taking time to spend with her - and soon realized she was not feeling loved because I was not showing her how I loved in the way she needed to be shown -if that makes sense.

The same went for her with me. She was always telling me she loved me but never did anything with me so I did not feel that she loved me as I as not important enough for even a little bit of her time. After awhile of struggling with this we both learned how to show each other we loved each other by using our languages. Let me see if I can explain this better.
I learned to tell Katie I love her and she has learned that even fifteen minutes with me makes my whole day better. We also learned to accept each others language. As in, I know she loves me because she says it - that is how she shows it. And when I spend time with her she knows it is my way of showing her I love her.

Finding a friend's language is hard, doing it can be even harder. It takes a lot of time and effort to find it and then use it. However, in the end it well pays off and assures your friend that you do love them. It shows you take an interest in them and wish to do things for them - to help them and love them more.

It is all right to show a friend you love them by using your language, but it is ten times better and more special to use theirs. There is a certain reassurance in that, something that can brighten their whole day and make them feel so very special. Just because it is not something you normally would do - giving a friend a hug if theirs is touch, writing a note if it is words, making a gift or so forth it is good to not only stretch yourself but is surely worth it if it is for a friend.
Also, try and think up creative ways to show them their language. A simple, - love you, - does wonders - but think up new ways to show it. Write a poem, story, or a card or letter. Leave it in places they are not expecting or, if you live to far away, find other ways to get it there. Snail mail is a very special way to go about it.

If theirs is gifts don't just go buy a gift. Find out what they like and make them something. Or, even if you do buy something make sure you put thought into it, looking for something you know they would like. Listen to when they talk and see if they mention anything they would like. A gift means more that way. Whatever your friend's language is, make sure you find it and then do it. They will greatly love it and it will bring you two closer. Take my word for it.